Wait, what?
Okay, Choose People—you’ve officially lost it.
Emotional Intelligence? Sure.
Culture? Yep.
Relationship-building? Absolutely.
But emotional intimacy at work? Really?
Yes. Really.
Here’s the deal: as human beings, we crave emotional intimacy. We’re wired for it. We want to be seen, known, and to feel that we matter. So why wouldn’t we want that in the place we spend 2,000 hours of our lives each year?
The problem is, in most workplaces, that craving gets met in sideways, watered-down ways—like gossip, sarcasm, or scrolling. These are cheap hits. Imitations of connection. They’re like duct tape when what we really need is super glue. The kind that’s made from sitting around a campfire, singing car duets, or sharing a sunset after a long day.
So what does emotional intimacy actually look like at work?
It looks like this:
- Real-deal connection
- Intentions are trusted
- Affinity and alliance
- Belonging
- Making a difference
- Being witnessed
- Fulfillment of meaningful purpose
- Feeling safe and seen
- Feeling proud, honored, welcomed
- Smiles and spontaneous laughter
- Thoughtfulness and generosity
- Shared commitment to the greater good
- Momentum with ease
- A sense of place and purpose
- Grace and empathy
- Inspired, energized effort
- “I’ve got your back” vibes
- Mutual trust and unspoken respect
- Calling forth each other’s potential
- The energy in the room you can actually feel
- “We've got this”
- Banding together when it hits the fan
- Standing for each other’s success
- Real-deal caring—people who genuinely give a rat’s patootie
- That “We’ll be damned if we let this stop us” spirit
- Sparkle, grit, and that belly-deep belief that anything’s possible
- Creative problem solving where no idea is too dumb
- Mistakes that are truly seen as learning
- Where people don’t say they have an open-door policy—because they actually live it
If you want your team to bring their whole selves to work—this is the secret sauce.
Every year, every single team member gives 2,000 hours of their life to your organization. Make that experience worthy of your mission.
Emotional Intimacy in the Workplace?
Check.
